WEEK- 3 The False Fear of Failure Exposed

WEEK- 3 The False Fear of Failure Exposed

I have been told many times in my life we don’t succeed in life because we have a “Fear of Success”. But after reading Og Mandino, we need to “teach ourselves more to prevent failure than to gain success”. He goes on to state that, “which two among a thousand men define success in the same way?”. But, “failure is man’s inability to reach his goals whatever they may be”. How true is that statement

Many of us are afraid of failing, at least some of the time. But fear of failure (also called “atychiphobia“) is when we allow that fear to stop us doing the things that can move us forward to achieve our goals. Sadly, I have been a victim of this for far too long.

I often think of the opportunities I’ve missed letting failures stop me from golden opportunities. It has taught me things about myself that I would not have learned to handle otherwise. But I have not really conquered the emotion, because I have not controlled my subconscious, till now.

I believe now I have the formula to not only control my habits, but the means to which to achieve success. I now know that only principals will lead me to success, and the only difference between a successful person and one who has failed is in his habits. “Good habits are the key to all success. Bad habits are the unlocked door to failure”. Og is right.

Michael Jordan is widely considered to be one of the greatest basketball players of all time. And yet, he was cut from his high school basketball team because his coach didn’t think he had enough skill.

But imagine if Michael Jordan had given up on his dream to play basketball when he was cut from that team, it would have robbed all of the basketball fans the greatness of his abilities.

Warren Buffet, one of the world’s richest and most successful businessmen, was rejected by Harvard University.

Richard Branson, the owner of the Virgin empire, is a high school dropout.

Imagine if these great men allowed failure to stop them, what great accomplishments they have made for themselves and society would be lost.

Observing the Law of Substitution that the mind cannot think of 2 things at the same time I must train myself to only think of good thoughts and block any negativism that can creep into my mind.

I must become a slave of good habits and realize that I can obtain that, not only through my readings but also by applying faithfully, the exercises that I instructed over the course of this program. It’s beginning to sink in, but there is a lot of work in the coming weeks.

 

 

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Week 2 – Pivotal Needs & The Game of Life

The popular board game, “Monopoly”, is a game where you buy Real Estate, as pieces advance around the board according to the roll of the dice, or in other words, by chance. In real life, the game of “Monopoly” patterns closely to the game of “life”. There are many buyers but only one seller, and we win by chance and the abilities we have to “Create an edge”.

Our thought processes work very similarly and the ones who succeed in life are the ones who best control their minds and not rely on chance alone. The more we learn how to control our thoughts and the cause of every event in our life, by whatever means creates this “edge” , will help us succeed above our dreams.

That is where the Master Keys comes into play. Not only reading Haanal’s works but combining them with the exercises will allow lasting change to take place. The exercises all work in congruence with each other.

This brings us to the importance of the DMP being read 3 times daily, but also as important the two Primary Pivotal Needs. I never realized the first time how important these PPN’s are connected to the DMP. But even if the two I picked may sometimes seem out of sync, once these are established all of them will fall into place.

 

Spiritual Growth & True Health are the two Primary Pivotal Needs I have chosen to begin the hero’s journey.

Because I believe in the Christian faith, the Universal Mind is the God of Abraham to me. Because growth comes through trials, Scripture also teaches we are not to grow weary in the process. Much spiritual development is the result of persistence. “As for you, brothers, do not grow weary in doing good” (2 Thessalonians 3:13). “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up” (Galatians 6:9). So this fits in perfectly for how I am approaching the next 24 weeks.

To me, True Health is “Optimum physical, mental and social well-being, not merely the absence of disease.”

How can I assure myself that I have the best chance of enjoying ‘well-being’? It begins by having a body that is working as it was designed to work. My training as a Pharmacist and understanding The Sympathetic & Parasympathetic Nervous Systems, shows me that the subconscious can affect my total well-being. Thus, an important aspect of health is how well my nervous system is orchestrating the workings of my body

My brain, spinal cord and all of my nerves control and regulate my body. Every cell, tissue, organ, and system (even my immune system!) take instructions from my nervous system. And gues who controls the nervous system, thats the ‘subconscious. So ultimately getting “Subby” in line with my spirit, is essential if I am to attain well-being.

Now the correlation of the Mater Keys and the primary pivotal needs is to master my thoughts which control the nervous system, and that will help me control the game of life.

 

THIRD TIMES THE CHARM

‘The third Times a charm’, is a common slang phrase for someone who obviously did not get it right the first or second time. How many times have we heard that in life? Also, other phrases like, “Better to do it late, than never”, is another saying that makes the excuse of not doing it right the first time seem acceptable.

I am from Italian-American ancestry and in Italian, there is a word, ‘Capotosta’, which means ‘Hard-head’. That just about says it all. I am tired of not listening and trying to solve life myself. I am not Frank Sinatra, I cannot ‘do it my way’.

My wonderful guides, Dan & Jeanna Swiatkowski, had the patience of Job, dealing with me when they should have ‘slapped me upside my head’. I will not take them for granted again.

That being said, this is the third time I am starting the course again. My participation once again solidifies the magnificence of the MKMMA course itself, (which includes the Digital Connections), for I know first hand what Mark preaches throughout the course to do it right the first time and discover the power and performance that is life-changing.

If I can be of any assistance to anyone taking this course for the first time, I plead with you to make this a priority. I have personally scene changes in people I have spoken to who have done the course the correct way and are now reaping the benefits.

I regret not taking the ‘fabulous Davene’ seriously when she was teaching the Digital Connections Course. I thought it was more fluff than substance. Man, was I wrong? “Mea culpa, mea culpa, mea maxima culpa”. (Mea culpa is a Latin phrase that means “through my fault” and is an acknowledgment of having done wrong).

Mark has said many times, you cannot change the past or determine what will happen in the future, but you can control what is happening today. So the key is to do the work each day and spend the time like we are instructed to do.

The “Capatosta” gets it, finally.