Week 22 – “When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change”
One of the most thought-provoking weeks for me has been this week. I never realized that some of the tools I used in my “Comfort Zone” was actually a defensive way of dealing with negative situations in my life and rationalizing the outcomes.
The tools of my “Comfort Zone”: Fear, Guilt, Unworthiness, Hurt Feelings, Anger which I have used to explain away any failures or adverse events in my life must be redirected and used for my advantage if I truly want to change the subconscious and have it work for my benefit.
I must use these negative tools so I can “be what I will to be”. If I can deal with these negative emotions I can truly be worthy of my dreams and reach my Dharma. To get out of this “Comfort Zone”, I must do as Mark says, “Put my big boys pants on”. Face the music and make the change
Of these attributes FEAR, is the most difficult and most powerful emotion that affects everything I do in life. If Fear is the ‘brick’ and the others are the ‘mortar’, then I must be able to turn this negative feeling into a positive affirmation.
I need to burn down this wall of fear and utilize it to refocus my efforts wherever fear reigns. It is true for me when I fear a situation it causes me to extremely concentrate and focus on the situation, but not on the solution, but more on the problem itself. So many situations occur from childhood to adult life that builds the Fear concept, allowing the accompanying comfort zone tools come to join in the situation in a negative way and outcome. Years of these negative events build up and affect our psyche.
I have encountered a new situation in life, opening a wellness and longevity clinic at the age of 67 years old. Although I don’t fear the work, I fear the attitude that society has against the elderly and how this may affect my efforts to be taken seriously. When I encounter negativity in business, I now become angry and my feelings are hurt easier, followed by the other culprit of guilt.
But now I realize that I must embrace these feelings, accept them and utilize these as tools to create the reality I want to create and become a self-directed thinker that can observe what is going on and react accordingly.
I realize if I don’t, I will not only be hurting me and my family but the hundreds of people that I can help live a better and healthier life. I can be the change.
So, through the Law of Substitution, I am now focusing on the positive outcome of what I want, and not on someone that has hurt my feelings. So I’m releasing myself of how the world is treating me and concentrating on the goal and the final outcome. So I will put blinders on and move steadfastly towards the accomplishment of this project, and any I partake of in the future.
As Mark and Davene have so eloquently have stated;
Psalm 46 unlocks the treasure within
- Be still and know that I am God
- Be still and know
- Be still